First time post feeling lost and confused

[MJTT]

dodog - Her rewriting history is common when they are in their wayward mindset. Your first action really needs to be moving back into your home. You won't be able to save a marriage if you are not there. If she is the one that wants space validate her feelings and let her be the one to get that space on her own. Don't make it easy for her to continue her A. What she is doing is cake eating. I encourage you to move back into the home at the very least.