Have you read the 5 Love Languages? It could be that you were on completely different wavelengths in terms of your love needs. As has been said, this will have been building up for some time, and it takes 2 to communicate openly.
At the minute, it's not about blame. It's about finding out how to be the best you, whatever the future holds.
My sister gave me the book after her husband left her, but I foolishly didn't read it until after my wife dropped the bomb. I just thought I knew what I was doing. W had been with me for a good while and things seemed great. I didn't think I needed to read any books. My primary language is physical touch. My wife's primary languages, unfortunately, are quality time and services. So, I was showing love to her mostly via physical touch, but the way she needed to receive love was by doing things with her and doing chores around the house, that kind of thing, which I was stubborn about doing, and rarely initiated doing things with her, but mostly went along with doing things she wanted to do. If only she would let me learn how to be a good husband with her, instead of forcing me to apply what I have learned here to someone else. We don't need new spouses to learn how to be good spouses, but so many people would rather just give up and start new with someone else.
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.
