What I guess I'm asking is perspective...here I am 10 months out from "im not happy" to 5 more before it's all final... is this how it's gonna stay? Need rational people to calm my irrational fears
No, my friend, it won't stay. But the way you travel your road is up to you and no one else can guide you. The unfortunate thing is that you travel it alone...but in a sense, you don't - you have many here that will "walk" with you.
The thing is, you know what lies ahead and what you must do. The down cycles will become less and less over time - what you are involved in is normal. Every single one of us here have gone through it. Heck, her ghost still gets me every now and then and yesterday was a doozy.
You'll be fine, my friend. Just fine.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.