First time post feeling lost and confused

[KevinIn]

dodog - welcome. wish we weren't here, but thankfully you found DB much quicker than I did.

My wife also has the "it can't be saved" attitude. Only time will tell, but i'm making changes for myself that maybe she'll get to enjoy one day. And i'm finding 180 opportunities whenever I can. I do see that patience is super important. this won't change overnight, in a few days, over a few weeks, but in months.