By the grace of God

[mleigh4]

So I took a step in being open and honest tonight. H is in a spin about a mystery co-worker addressing me as his ex wife. He started to get a little testy about it, like this person is watching him and reporting to me. He assured me that he has never referred to me as his ex wife and in fact told his boss about his trip to Tahoe with his son and wife.

I corrected him by telling him the story about the co worker. He then complained about working with a bunch of guys who act like teenage girls. I pointed out to him that it doesn't surprise me that co workers would think that being that it was his work buddies he was spending all those nights out with, right? (At least that is what he told me) May be bad DB'ing to bring up the past but for Pete's sake, he needs to own up to his own behavior!

So he said fine, he will not bother me with this and just keep things business since that is what I want.

I replied, "all I have ever wanted was an apology. Not for your feelings, those are always valid, just an honest apology for the way you handled those feelings. I hope someday you can because that's how I heal and our friendship would be much better. I very much want to be there for you during difficult times like this. It's hard for me not to, but it's really not fair to me. I do hope this all blows over for you."

I figure it's a start.