ok ... i agree with Vapo and Job ... leave it entirely between the girls and exw.

as much as you want to, don't look.

i will say this: people talk. and people are often eager to tell the ex what their former spouse is doing or not doing and with whom they are doing it. so she may have looked or someone may have volunteered. it's a small world ... mutual friends, etc.

tomorrow's the big day!!!! prayers to you all xoxoxoxoxo {{{{{hugs}}}}}

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver