So Confused and Conflicted (3)

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Thank you, Sandi. I will read over this several times. I want to note that at one point, you made it sound like I was very dependent on her. I don't know whether you meant to, but she was actually the very dependent, needy one, always pulling on me for stuff, which is how I was able to be the neglectful one. However, I was dependent in a different sense. I had so many eggs in her basket, by having no friends. So, that made me very vulnerable to having a lot of loss when she left. Whereas, she has like 10 good friends or more. I was an introverted hobbyist. She also very likely set herself up to have a replacement before she dumped me, so she's probably not very lonely, unless she p!ssed off a lot of her acquaintances by perhaps cheating on me and then dumping me for Mr. Perfect. I don't know. None of them will hardly talk to me, and now I can barely get my wife to say anything to me either. Is there any sort of time frame to this? My wife keeps gradually doing things toward breakup. Her latest thing has been to talk to me and visit me much less. I don't know whether her lawyer has advised her to do that. How long does it tend to take a heart to soften, if it's going to soften?