Be more present and get involved with your kids. Do some of the housework. Take your 5 year old to school. Cut down on your working hours. As they say work on yourself. She will see the change. An affair is a symptom. Focus on the root cause.
Everything will be ok. Visualise what you want.
Me: 43, W: 43 M: 16, T: 18 D - 7, D - 7 ILUB: 26 August 2014 Still living together