IMO there is hope for you. I think your wife was just in the wrong place at the wrong time and is going through some issues that has caused her to temporary lose her sense of judgement.
Patience will be the key.
I like to think there is hope. We had several heartfelt and tearful conversations after the A and she sent me several nice emails immediately after the A and told me she loves me with all her heart and wants to grow old with me and she regrets the A. I want to believe my loving and kind wife is in there somewhere and will return some day. But the person I am dealing with right now is giving me no hope, is cold and callous as well and clearly wants nothing to do with me.
