Think about that for a minute. Not your defensive explanation. But just think about that.
What am I thinking about??? How is my explanation defensive? Why are you now defending my wife? Are you OM? I wanted her to think very highly of herself, just not compliment herself. I find boastful people to be obnoxious and rude. Why are you so on my case?
Wsh - I notice in a lot of your posts there's a "yeah, but" to them. Here's the thing, if your wife felt it, then it was real TO HER. Theres nobody 'defending' her, instead, what Jeep was trying to do was for you to look at those words from your wife's point of view. You say "i didnt mean this or that" or "It wasnt in that way" or whatever. But like I said before, I think you need to look at things from a different perspective.
If your wife felt demeaned, then you were demeaning. It doesnt matter what your intent may have been.
Now, going forward, it isnt about what you say to her. It isnt about taking blame. It isnt about apologizing.
It's about BEING THE CHANGE. How can you take the valuable information that she gave you and mold yourself into the man you want to be? Im not saying every item on her list has merit. I am saying that you need to filter it so that you can set goals for yourself to make personal change.
