Thanks, Jeep74.

As you may tell, I'm not patient. I want some reassurance from him, which is not coming and I refuse to ask for it - shows neediness and that's completely unattractive! I'm walking my path as if it'll be me and my son walking this together - I'm looking at creating a new life for us. My dynamics with my son have changed considerably since my H left. My son is so much more reliant on me alone now. My H loves my son adoringly, but he is not here that often physically. For an 8 year old, that is a huge deal. His daddy is absent and he is sad and angry. Guess who gets that fun dealing with that? I just want my husband - not as he is - but once he comes to a place of understanding what he wants and chooses me/son/family unit, whatever its called....basically wants to be married and have a family with me and our son. I don't know if that'll happen, and I'm holding my intentions on that, while behaving in the best interests of me and my son.

I loved your input. I will continue to practice camp #1 and incorporate from the DR book techniques as appropriate. I think I'll be here a while!


M: 49
H: 47
Son: 8
DBomb: Dec 9, 2016
H moved out: Jan 24, 2017