I have to say that I like your boundaries. Wish I felt that way and acted on it sooner myself.
Thanks. I felt I didn't have any boundaries for so long and had been very weak during the process. To see my wife struggling to get over another man was hard and I sometimes felt ridiculous trying to comfort her about her lost "love". I knew if she reached out to the guy it was all over.
My friends say they would have thrown her out the day WW told me about the A. If you would have asked me what I would do in such a situation a year ago I would have agreed. But that wasn't my reaction at all. In fact, I have rarely been angry during this ordeal. I've just been sad. I even felt sorry for WW when the counselor told me WW started having feeling for the guy in September but didn't know who to talk to about it so she kept it to herself. I can imagine her wrestling with those feelings and being alone.
The whole situation changed from whether I could live with the past A to whether WW even wanted to stay with me. I am still sometimes stunned this is happening.
