So Confused and Conflicted (3)

[Woke_Up]

[quote=WshIKnw
You are preaching to the choir, but I appreciate your input. I have taken most of the blame for this, and my only complaint about her is that she hid her feelings, making it very hard for me to know there was a serious problem, and didn't try hard enough to make the marriage work. No second chances, no MC, no stern warnings that she was nearing the end of her rope, just all of a sudden had an epiphany, and went cold for a few weeks and then left. I have been accused numerous times of being too nice to her and taking too much of the blame. All that I have said is that after she went cold, her complaints became exaggerated, and a few of them were ridiculous. I have always stated that I was guilty of most of the things she complained about. I have also always stated that I never did anything serious like cheat on her or become an alcoholic or get in trouble or lose my good job. [/quote]

Have you read the 5 Love Languages? It could be that you were on completely different wavelengths in terms of your love needs. As has been said, this will have been building up for some time, and it takes 2 to communicate openly.

At the minute, it's not about blame. It's about finding out how to be the best you, whatever the future holds.