I have taken most of the blame for this, and my only complaint about her is that she hid her feelings, making it very hard for me to know there was a serious problem, and didn't try hard enough to make the marriage work. No second chances, no MC, no stern warnings that she was nearing the end of her rope, just all of a sudden had an epiphany, and went cold for a few weeks and then left.
That is a very, very common theme here. While you are responsible for part of it, you aren't for all of it or even most of it. She didn't let you know. She should have, but she didn't. People work things different ways, my friend. Doesn't matter why anymore. It's done. There is no going back. But there was no "all of a sudden epiphany." Do you really think she felt within a week or two or three that she just had the bright idea to end it?
What's best for you? Whatever it takes for you to get stronger. Period.
However, first and foremost you need to realize you aren't to blame...unless you were mentally/physically/verbally abusive. Then that is whole different kettle of fish.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
