My personal feelings are that it has intensified recently. D5 has always pushed boundaries and is strong willed. However, recently we have been pandering to her, probably because of our current sitch. We decided that we must stop pandering or she would end up completely spoilt and with bad habits. D5 has been reacting to our change in handling her.
However, our R has always been fraught with explosive arguments and much spew that D has unfortunately been witness to. I do worry the effect this has had on her. For whatever reason I have never been able to stop the spew, and too many times I have gone 'screaming banshee' as V puts it, when I reach the end of my tether.
It has never been a healthy R in the way we handle conflict and control. That is the sad truth. If we make it through this, and it is a big if, it will need to be a different R, a new R where we learn together to work on our issues.
-- Me: 47 WW: 35 SS: 17 D: 5 T: 7 yrs Engaged: 2 yrs OEA confirmed: August 17 2016 ongoing since April 2016. OEA continues (with occasional breaks) BD2 - W says will visit OM in Jan 18
