Your husband is most probably into the phase of Depression/withdrawal of the MLC, they are entwined. He is starting to reflect on his past actions and how they impacted you and the kids, that's a tough period for them. Now it's a time for him to understand what led him to those acts, it might come to him all at once or one at a time.
Don't expect him to talk to you during that phase about what's going through his mind and if you try to push him, you won't get any answers and he might get "mad", shame/remorse/guilt are starting to hit him very hard. Another phase to get through, remember it's a journey.
Now to cheer you up a tiny bit, those waves of resentment will go down and you will notice you can have a few days in a row without any, so stay detached and GAL, the more you are engaged with others the better you will feel. It's important during that piecing journey to stay in touch with good friends and have fun, nothing is more uplifting than a good conversation/laugh with great people. Also I noticed the happier I am the more he wants to be with me, he is now joining me to some of my GAL activities without me asking him to do so. I think he is starting to realize that I can live and be happy without him and it scares him a tiny bit.
He needs to get through that phase by himself, that's excellent you prescribed him some AD, it might help him to get through it faster. My husband stayed in that phase for about 6 months, he is now in the stage 1 of acceptance, his crazy MLC personality is definitively gone. He is still not willing to talk about the past but when I talk about it, he doesn't get upset anymore. Also, he is becoming more and more attentive to my needs without me asking for anything, he wants me to be happy and with him... he started to complain that I don't spend enough time with him...wow one year ago, he was complaining that I was to clingy.
Me 52+ WH 57+ Married 20 + Piecing since 2016 (ready to give up...)
