Man, I've been in your shoes. And part of me will always be. You are in the "its my fault" mode, which is evident in all your writings.
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But I do not believe that things were that bad when she went wayward. She was just in a vulnerable state due to my neglect.
2x4 [ON] OFF Just because you don't believe things weren't bad, doesn't mean they were the same in her mind. You can't mind read. You are living in this "if I had done this, if I had done that" mode, and quite frankly, its making you crazy. People don't go wayward when things are good in the marriage. This "vulnerable state" is pure BS. As GeorgiaBell said, she is an adult and made a well-thought out decision. Now, with that said, do you have any part in the demise? Of course you do, it takes two to tango. But, your actions DID NOT drive her into the arms of another. I'd be willing to bet that she suggested as much, no? Pull up your big boy pants and take care of Wsh.
She may/may not come back. But one thing is for sure, she won't if this line of behavior continues.
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No offense, my friend. Just telling like it is. And, no, its not a pessimistic view.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
