I believe you have no kids correct? It makes your decision a lot easier. They say affairs usually fizzle out after 6 months. Can you wait that long and can you forgive?
Correct. No kids. I might be able to forgive if I felt she was truly sorry and we put in a lot of work. My plan is to move on with life and if we meet up again then treat it like a new relationship. I just don't think I can wait around on her hoping she comes back. WW was the love of my life so I will always have a spot for her in my heart.
I have done a lot of thinking of other causes of her behavior and the one that makes the most sense is her job. In retrospect all her promotions and accolades at work went to her head and made her a much stronger, condescending and cold person in the few months before the A. These weren't directed at me but others. WW was always a bubbly and cheerful person and now her subordinates don't like her and she is condescending to a lot of people. Even her sisters tell me she is cold and distant and very blunt with what she tells people to the point of offending them. It's like she doesn't care any more if she hurts people's feelings. She told our counselor she was always trying to please people before And this is her doing what she wants.
