...and the fact that I am still trying to hold on I feel she is using to her advantage.. she sees that I'm still around and it doesn't phase her..
Will removing myself from her FB and trying to be as NC as possible potentially make her see that I am moving on and she now has lost something? Or will it just give her relief...
Im_Here,
You're pursuing so she's distancing. You can't make her do anything; you need to move on for yourself, not so she'll see that you're moving on.
I had six sessions with a DB coach and there was one session that really changed my mindset. The DB coach was telling me to get out and GAL, but I told him that I really didn't have the time for GAL. Then, he said, "Your wife is going to divorce you, soon you'll have plenty of time." He said that in a very matter-of-fact manner. That one statement really helped clear my fog.
You have to understand, for now your wife is gone. Wake up and smell the coffee. Stop living for her and get your ducks in a row so that you can live for yourself. The sooner you do that, the sooner you'll be on the path to better things, with or without her.
