Don, I really hasn't even been getting dates at all. I had some online dates, which you don't do, otherwise I've been in a complete dry spell for a year. Then forever before that. I couldn't explain it except that I am never around single men.
Is it true it only takes one? I think it might be. I never saw myself with a younger guy with no kids and he is AMAZING. And I was resigned to the just being alone for now too. Does that have anything to do with it, I don't know.
What attracted me the most? His kindness and the way he reached out and was appreciative of something nice I did. His sense of humor. His passion for what he does for a career. The way we simply clicked and have similar personalities. His drive in life. The way he is making his own dreams come true. How is so very thoughtful and considerate of me. Which I saw clearly on the first date, actually. His accomplishments are impressive to me, because they do show his character.
There is no easy answer. But in the meantime, perhaps try a new venue. The gigs aren't working. Your out of town conferences aren't working for now. How about finding a new hobby? Try some meetups that involve your interests.
The frustration with this situation may actually be leaking out to other women. For example, the woman in my class who is single and is despertaley searching for a guy having a "crush" on every single guy that walks in the door just omits desperation. My guy (one of them she was zoning in on) said her desperation is such a turn off and is obvious. I think we all omit an air about us when we are searching too hard for something. I know I have done that. I am not saying you are leaking desperation. I think it's more the frustration that might be evident. Hang in there Don!
