I think it was your post on the merits of DB and wondering if it 'works'. It looks like that post was deleted as I was adding to it.
My comments are as follows:
For me, I didnt come across DB until after I was separated and my ex was already in an affair. How many of those cases turn around anyway? My odds were extremely low from the outset. And now my ex is married to the AP.
So, did DB 'work' to save my marriage? Well, obviously not. Would anything have? I highly doubt it.
BUT, DB did force me to look at myself and figure out how to get out of the pit I had dug for myself. It gave me the knowledge about how to rebuild myself into a stronger, more resilient, better equipped person which has made me a better parent, friend, and partner. My new relationship is much stronger because of DB.
My ex's choices arent the fault of DB. I consider my story a success even if my marriage was not saved.
