Thanks, Vanilla. Scrambled eggs for brains is exactly it. The OM couldn't be much worse of a person yet she still fell for it. WW is just so damn impressionable. Her best friend at work is in a toxic marriage and was constantly complaining about her husband. WW has always had a habit of adapting personality traits of these work friends because she has a hard time making friends and wants to fit in. Misery loves company and this friend actually encouraged her to leave me with comments like "You're so brave!" and "You're inspiring!" and made jokes about our situation.
Then OM enters the picture at just the right time filling her head up with garbage and she bought it. Her work friend knew about OM to some degree and encouraged it, too. One message in particular sticks out: "If OM goes back to his wife will you go back to your husband?" What kind of disgusting question is that to ask someone? Just an awful person. A true friend would be slapping some sense into someone talking about having an affair. I still acknowledge my faults that left the M vulnerable to this, but these other factors played a role, too.
So OM went to talk to his W yesterday and she relayed me the conversation. He still denies they had sex when WW was on her work trip to his town in December. I still really don't believe that. He says they only had sex "3 or 4" times. The last time he was here when he broke it off with WW is when he said oral happened. WW was on her period, he says. What's sick about that is he previously had said that occurred Saturday, 2/18 at night when he told his W earlier that day he was breaking it off with WW. Just had to use her 1 more time. He finally admitted he picked her up at the airport when she went on her work trip and they rode around alone to different job sites WW had to visit. He previously said he was driving around a "car full of people". He admitted he had told WW he was leaving his W, which he had never actually told his W. Not clear on if that means he was lying to WW about it or just hadn't told his W yet. I think he was lying to lead WW along further.
Still plan on talking to my IC tomorrow more about reaching out again to WW to see if she wants to talk.
