but I couldn't do that. Not yet. This is just too new. She's only going to be 10, still a little girl and he's still her dad. My experience as a child has shaped how I look at things as an adult. I will bend over backwards to make sure my children never feel alienated from their dad. I don't want them feeling like they need to hide their relationship or feel stuck in the middle. This has nothing to do with them and life is going to be hard enough. I did, however, decline an invitation to his family get together to celebrate a couple of birthdays including hers.
There is a difference between you having the party and your family. He may not be welcome there - how will that affect the party when the environment is hostile? If it were your party, then you have more control over things. Another thing you need to consider is asking permission of the ones who are throwing said party, as they may not want him there at all.
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Going back to what Jeep said... does anyone here still share birthdays/holidays with their ex for the kids? Does it work for you? I'm not sure I could handle it, but it's something I'd consider for my kids.
Only when its one of us throwing it. I won't have her at my family's place just because of all the sh*t she's done. Eff that.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
