This used to be easier - and a lot more fun, cont.

[DonH]

Wow, what in the hell happened? Lol. I leave for the weekend and come back to a spirited Discussion - part of which must again be going over my head.

Let's see if I can respond some.

Skinny dipping - yet again? Wow I'm so over the whole skinny dipping jokes. Funny. The first ten times, perhaps, but... And if anything I'm homophobic so not getting naked with another dude unless he's got MD behind his name and we are in a clinic.

As to if I wanted an R I coukd have one or many. Can't disagree more as it takes two people to have an R. What can I do, gorse someone at gun point? If. She's not interested, she's not interested regardless of what I want. Those who are I have not been. I guess I coukd just. Keep going with them. A his but if I can't bewitch someone I really want to be with, why bother? To that end I guess it's true I coukd be in an R if I chose to but what the point. I'd rather be happy by myself than less than with someone else.

This in fact relates to the meet of some of the other posts. I don't know if I'm not clear, people are not able to see all of what I wrote or they just reach their own conclusions regardless of the info I do provide? However it's not like I've had all of these failed Rs. I'm not even getting to the point they can fail. I've not had anything beyond casual or a single date in 3.5 yeas. It's not about me or even the other person or conflicts or something, it's about I'm not interested in them or them in me for all sorts of reasons including distance. I doubt they coukd say I did not handle conflict, or communicate or speak their LL AFTER ONE DATE!

So much of what I wrote is who I am at least as far as they know as the Time nessisary to find out more has not been invested. This deeper things often come later and in fact if I were putting them out that early you'd all be saying I'm revealing to much too soon and being to anxious therefore scaring them away. You'd say, relax, just have. Fun and get to know them - right.

But I can certainly add to that list.

- I'm extremely honest
- live to communicate about deep things
- I enjoy finding out about the other person
- I always say how I feel - and it's really how I feel. Not what I think the other person wants to hear
- I am very direct
- I am rather right on politics
- I do not want to get married again. I'd prefer one woman in the same page as me.
- if. She's still looking for her "soulmate" at this age we are not a match.
- I am very rational at conflict. I can agree to disagree. I don't do crazy. For example there is this spoof video where a woman has a nail in the center of her head and goes on and on complaining about the pain yet when her BF suggests it might be the nail in her head she gets very upset with him and says he's not listening to her - it's not the nail. THATS CRAZY - ad the video strongly suggests. I don't do crazy
- I don't sweat the small stuff
- money is no real issue to me
- I rarely if ever care what someone else thinks of me. I most certainly value their input but I don't do anything based. On what I think they will say or think.

Is that more what you are looking for? If so, it makes sense perhaps a month in or 5 dates in. Do you really think I. Not finding someone because they don't think I'd handle R conflict well? And if. So what on earth coukd someone just getting to know me base this on?

If I knew what to change I would most certainly consider changing it. It. Coukd be. Possible I'm trying too hard or coming On too strong. It's possible. Yet, the woman I just came out and asked told me she stopped interacting because I didn't seem interested. How can I be trying to hard yet coming Off as not interested?

Even the suggestions and discussion here is now all over the map - leading me even more to believe there is no easy answer. Still I hope you'll all keep trying.