Newbie, need help with WAW!

[180Man]

You say you are going to be 'strong'.

Maybe start with your examples of what you think she may say and how youd respond?

Okay, that's a good idea. I will just try a handful for now...in no particular order...

Her: How are you?
Me: Really good.

Her: How's work?
Me: Pretty good, I've started a new position that's a lot more engaging and I'm back working on X project which I'm pretty excited about.

Her: So what have you been up to?
Me: (do i tell her what i've been doing to GAL or withhold it?...not sure how to approach this?)

Me: How's work?
Her: Really busy, we're doing x, y, and z and our schedule has been crazy. Etc.
Me: X, y, and Z? Wow, that's a lot to deal with and must be very stressful.

Her: I'm changing my phone number
Me: Okay. Let me know when it's done and I'll take you off our plan.

Her: I think we've grown apart. We have been great roommates and great friends, but we just can't make each other happy any more.
Me: I'm so sorry that you felt unloved and disconnected from me. I never stopped loving you, but I guess I didn't express myself well enough. When did you start to feel this way?

Her: I started to feel this way around X time when Y happened.
Me: I hadn't thought of it that way, but I can see how that would have made you feel

Her: I'm moving to country/state X (this is highly likely, btw, possibly as soon as summer).
Me: Oh, that should be really interesting OR Oh, that sounds like it'll be kinda shitty (depending on where it is...)

Her: How's the dog?
Me: She's doing great (but misses you? do I play that card?)

Her: (If she says something about the house)
Me: Look, that's not what I came here to talk about. I've been thinking about it, but I'm not ready to deal with a decision that big.

Her: (If she says something about the finances)
Me: That's not what I came here to talk about, I've been thinking about it, but i'm ready to delve into that

Her: (If she says something about the few things she has left in the house (she already took most of her stuff while I was out of town helping her family with a medical emergency...yup, shitty)
Me: It bothers me when you come to the house when I'm not there. I gave you a key for a very different reason. Of course you can have your stuff whenever you want, but please tell me when. (I changed the locks the first weekend after finding out about the A. We had already bought new locks for the whole house so I just put them on. About two weeks later I gave her a key in counseling and told her there was no pressure but I wanted her to know she had the option to come home whenever she felt it was right).

Her: (If she comes back and says something like...it's our house, i'm still paying for half of it, I can come whenever I want...)
Me: You are and you can come whenever, but i'm asking you to respect my privacy and come when I'm there.


As I'm typing these I really become filled with doubt. What is validation going to lead to? I have coffee with her, validate her to the best of my ability, attempt to end the meeting at my discretion if able, and then....what happens? She's going to email me again asking for another coffee date? I just don't see it. I understand that getting us both in the same room after five or six weeks of not seeing each other is a good thing, but how does this lead to a second meeting?

Thank you for reading through this. I really appreciate any feedback you guys have time to give.