WAW had an affair - hurt and confused

[Vanilla]

Your WW has a long way to come back from this. I think so.

It's serious decompensation in my view, deterioration of personality. There are always choices and hers haven't been the best.

I ask myself why would a spouse choose someone so unsuitable? For the record my ex the Giggalo ran off to Italy and has an A with a Russian ex stripper who has three children with 3 different men! Go figure.

You might look at RD500 spouse who lives with a homeless alcoholic who is abusive and jobless.

Or Rosalinda WH who is with a Russian Tramp after a green card.

Or Pink (noW Tita) WH who went for a French fancy with no knickers.

There are such choices here.

So why?

I have pondered this question considerably because it makes no sense to me. That's because it makes no sense.

It makes sense to the wayward though, however delusional and irrational, people behave it ways that suit them. It makes sense to them.

I think we might often lose sight of the fact that we are ok, that we may face changes with personal growth. Really our own side of the street is pretty clear of rubbish and needs some but not much cleaning. Our sand pit is ok to play in.

The worse the OP, the more I thought that makes no sense. I even recollect MCS who had a POM in his WW life who wasn't interested at all. The EA was real but in her head.

Of course As with those like this usually don't last. Until they do for a period.

So I get to the point where I say scrambled eggs for brains. Never be unscrambled.

All you can do is observe and get out of the way. Protect yourself from this and frankly stand.

There is a difference between snooping and Intel. You need Intel to know exactly your route. To know the truth. Snooping you don't need and besides such info is unreliable anyway. If the wayward has scrambled eggs for brains. They don't know or are all over the place. Plus posts get planted. And there can be OM2, 3, 4 etc in the pipeline, so eliminating one of them might not stop the others.

Detach is the key, observer mode.


Whilst I understand the message about children, be thankful that is not an extra dynamic you have.

And one last thing, go get tested. Really do it, be safe and healthy. This is high risk trusting a liar who is with a drunk and performing oral. I got tested, I can find the link for you if you need it. WH had lots of inappropriate contact with women, although of course he says he didn't.

To justify your WW will rewrite history too. It's a classic together with the blaming.

Stand as long as you want and need to. You have time.

V