Friday: received some texts from W, saying she wasn't happy with the results of her beauty treatments and would complain to the salon - I validated, said it was a lot of money and they should get it how you want it. She asked if I would help her write an email, so I told her to give me the key points and I would help with the words.
Read quite a bit of 5 LL on train journey home. While I think my LLs are physical touch and words of affirmation, I believe W’s are Quality Time, acts of service and receiving gifts. I tried to think back to meaningful gifts I had gotten her in the past. I remember early in our, I bought her a very old copy of Wuthering Heights (her favourite book). She loved it. I need to find that sort of caring again, rather than pandering to her ‘wants’.
She also said she had spanked D5 on the bottom. This upsets me as she has always been against hitting children. She told me about it later. D5 had been hitting her, and she had told her that if she kept doing it she would spank her, and D5 being a typical 5 year old, hit her again. SO she put her over her knee. More on this on Saturday’s journal.
On the way home, I asked if she wanted anything picking up, she said probably, but then changed her mind - when I asked if she was sure, she had a go about how I wanted joint custody, so I should stop relying on her to look after the kids. My take away is not to ask her if she's sure.. in fact don't respond to her anywhere near as much as I have been.
I ignored it, and when I got home, said nothing about it, just tried to act as if. Nothing more was said on that subject, she wanted to talk about inheritance tax, as she had seen her father, and it looks as though he and his brother had managed to get the grandparents to change the will and gift money to them as well as the house, so the grandchildren will be getting much less. Her main worry is having something to pass on to her children, from what she says.
Went to our separate rooms at bedtime, still feels strange.
-- Me: 47 WW: 35 SS: 17 D: 5 T: 7 yrs Engaged: 2 yrs OEA confirmed: August 17 2016 ongoing since April 2016. OEA continues (with occasional breaks) BD2 - W says will visit OM in Jan 18
