Hang in there man. You're doing the best you can, and better than 99% of the people in the same situation. Lean on your support (including us!) and go easy on yourself.
M46 W48 M11 T14 S11 D8 BD: 2016/05/27 In-home separation: 2016/11/23 Nesting: 2017/06/11 W moves out: 2018/01/07 W goes public with OM: 2018/07/12 I ask for a divorce: 2018/12/14
Did ya read any books, etc. on single dad/coparenting you'd recommend? I need to start prepping for that.
I have one in particular that is very good that I definitely recommend, but I don't know if the site lets us post recommendations like that? I got scolded once and can't remember if I was talking about another divorce-beating school of thought (i.e., a direct competitor of MWD), or whether it is just a blanket prohibition.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
"Mom's House, Dad's House: Making two homes for your child"?
Psy- you're supposed to say, How I wish I had a H like you! cuz... I wish I had a W like you! If my W fought for our marriage 1/100th of how you fought for it....
I'm tired of couch surfing. I'm tired of being in limbo w/ someone I care for. I need to move on.
All that's left now is to be courageous and stable for my kids.
And waking up to someone who is not angry.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
"Mom's House, Dad's House: Making two homes for your child"?
I hate this so much. Really, really hate it.
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All that's left now is to be courageous and stable for my kids.
That's all you can be, my friend. There is no other option.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
Some perfectly great co-parents still manage to parent children who don't do ok w/r/t divorce. And our spouses have no idea how it's going to go, they just can't face it.
It never ceases to amaze me as to how many parents who destroy a family fall back on this line.
Script! I not only get the kids are resilient and kids will be fine...I get the kids will be happier if their mom is happier...sigh.
Same with me Gordie, mixed with "i'm a better mother when you aren't around."
M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6 11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing 1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break 2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing 2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
Same with me Gordie, mixed with "i'm a better mother when you aren't around."
Very, very similar to mine. Mine goes as far to say they behave very well when they aren't skyping with me when she has them - see, they tend to be a little out of control.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
"Zombie Apocalypse: How to Pick Up the Pieces and Survive with Your Children When Your Wife Nukes Your Marriage."
Can I pre-order a copy? I can host a book signing at my house...all of you can come...and invite your H, W, STBXH, STBXW, XH, XW...and let's not leave out the OMs and OWs...there will be an open bar...and we can even host a fight club...Hs vs. OMs and Ws vs. OWs...it'll be epic! Sorry, no children permitted.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
