A part of me does wonder if doing anything I could to save the marriage (giving up pride, being that friend, being soft with someone that did not deserve it ) would have been ultimately worth it.
JujuB,
I'm not terribly keen on friending the wayward spouse back into the marriage because, in my opinion, it just sets-up the opportunity for a repeat and I'm not going through that sh*t again.
I don't think my XW could ever come back to me. Not because she wouldn't come back, but because I've changed so much that she couldn't come back. I wouldn't tolerate much of the stuff that she foisted on me in the past. I'm typically a very tolerant and easy-going guy, but my XW would have to walk on eggshells in order to regain my trust. I don't want either of us to have to walk on eggshells, so I see no possibility of reconciliation because I've changed so much. The doormat is gone.
