WAW had an affair - hurt and confused

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W has been posting some heartache type quotes on Pinterest.

Speaking from experience, i'd recommend that you stop looking at her pinterest, facebook, etc. It is snooping, which breaks one of Sandi's rules. Its bad for you and bad for thr relationship.

I still want the closure of a conversation... But I think my W sees me as a closed chapter in her life and the A was a separate "loved and lost" event.

I'm in the same situation. I want closure and she sees our marriage as a closed chapter. However, I'm DBing which means im ignoring my need for closure, applying 180s and LRT, and talking to a DB coach. That is helping more thwn my counselor.