Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 9

[PsySara]

Let me clarify, I know all the ends and outs of the affair. The main problem is when the affair came up in the past the conversation would spiral into an ugly argument and sometimes divorce would be the end discussion. (both he and I have done that at different times) After this last big fight in December WH said he would looking for a lawyer and then I started the LRT. WH came back and asked to start piecing. I haven't brought up the affair as I am trying to build our relationship back so that we are stable enough to discuss the affair without it wrecking us. But at some point I need to see he has done hard core introspection and can discuss this with me.