WH came back. Piecing. Almost at 2 year mark.

[PsySara]

Yeah, Bluwave has arrived! I constantly read your threads as you did the DBing task and came out on top. I am in the infantile stages of piecing and find it harder than the LRT. My biggest challenge is resentment right now. My DB coach said I am stuck on "Someone needs to pay" and he's right. Reading about your struggles after piecing began has helped me immensely. I have found comfort in knowing that this is to be expected.

Has your H attended IC? What about reading books? If so, was he the type of guy to go to counseling before or read up on relationship repair? I am trying to find if I am trying to force my way of remorse on my WH or if this is appropriate to expect these things? So far my WH has only attempted to read "How to help your spouse heal from your affair" once and that was before the second time he cheated with same OW. Obviously it didn't sink in at the time. In his defense he simply doesn't read, not for enjoyment and grudgingly for studying. His actions are kind and gentle but I still have this humongous wall of resentment in my way.