This used to be easier - and a lot more fun, cont.

[Painter]

[quote=doodler]Don,
See I've lead a rather fulfilling and diversified life. I've accomplished nearly everything I wanted to do as a child. Since I was like 10 I wanted to be a firefighter and paramedic - I did it. I wanted to perform in bands - do it, wanted to be on the radio, did it/still do it. I have accomplished a huge amount - just not as well with my personal life.

-Executive Director of 7,500 person member org.
-President of multiple orgs.
-Radio DJ and chief engineer
-Recording studio owner since 1983
-Musician playing likely close to 5,000 gigs in my life
-Musician performing on over 100 "albums" CDs, Jingles, etc. likely over 500 total songs.
-Private pilot with about 1,100 total hours flying time
-Have owned several planes
-Never smoked a cigarette, tried pot, coke, meth or anything else, rarely drink, yet I'm a recovering opiate addict with 7 years sobriety. No one and I mean no one, had a clue.
-Firefighter - likely participated in 50 structure fires - which really is a lot as things just don't burn down much anymore.
-Paramedic - treated thousands of patients over near 25 years with all sorts of cool stories.
-Dozens of people would claim I saved their life - a few would be correct.
-Love to ski - mostly water
-Love to travel
-Decent at baseball/softball - average at other sports
-Like to go to baseball games, followed by Packers games, basketball least favorite.

That hopefully gives a better glimpse into my life and who I am.

So you call these accomplishments - which they are. Something to be proud of.

But they're not who you are. These are just things you did. Not who you are. You're not applying for a job.

I asked questions like 'Are you kind?' and it threw the other person completely off. But that's what I need to know. And 'What kind of R do you want? How do you react in a conflict? Can you talk about how you feel? What do you do if you're not satisfied in the R? What was your part of your M breakdown? What did you learn from that? How do you see your future? What do you want from a partner? What can you offer a partner?'

I couldn't care less about achievements. Can you pay your own bills? Do you have a reasonably stable lifestyle? That's enough.