I read through the validation thread again this morning, I'm frustrated too! I agree that listening and giving validity to her thoughts and feelings is a good thing, but I'm confused when I read what Sandi says because I also agree with her thoughts.
What would an example conversation look like that validates in the manner the validation thread shows but also shows the husband's strength? I think I have trouble seeing how this conversation would play out with my wife. I have no expectations of fixing anything in one sit down, but I don't want to make things worse!
Sorry I'm just not getting it, I'm not trying to be obstinate, I'm really just trying to get this to click for me.
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