Ok ok, one more quick update. I found our copy of "The 5 Love Languages" from a few years ago. My wife wrote notes in the book! Little breadcrumbs for me to find during this time of hell.
As others have said, those notes are from a different time and place. Not useful now. While thinking of them may bring you temporary excitement, if you aren't careful it'll bring you nothing but pain...I say this because if you think that by trying them it will work, then you may be in for a painful lesson. Just be careful. Work on yourself and forget the notes.
Frankly - I disagree and think that they are quite useful as I think she has some good thoughts.
-Communicated better So, what does this mean? To me, it doesnt mean it's time to run over and spill your guts. It means to communicate better...smarter. I think you should focus on more than just your words. This involves your listening skills, it involves your actions matching your words and mirroring her words. What can you do to communicate "BETTER"?
-Accepted their spouse's personality, looks, needs, and (some) behaviors & didn't try to change them So....is there something you arent telling us about your interactions? How controlling would you say that you were in your M?
-Were happy people as being individuals as they are being a couple In your first post, you said this: A little over a year ago I started to slide into depression. How have you fixed this?
-Could learn to give each other space So do it. Now is a great time to give her space.
