So Confused and Conflicted (3)

[Dawgs]

I didn't mean to offend you, Jeep. I'm sorry. You have a tough love approach, and I thank you for your support.

Didn't offend me at all. You'll find I'm not easily offended. However, when I'm called out I'll respond. No worries, my friend.

I have a really hard time thinking about that right now.

I can relate. There are things that will always be with me. Always. I lost my wife/best friend/lover after 10 years of marriage...we've been through so much together - deployments, tragedy, etc. And been each other's rock. Divorce just came out of the blue. Totally. But, its done and done and she isn't coming back. I learned that the only way to make the pain and all palatable is to adopt the mindset that she no longer exists. At all. Our only form of communication for most days is a simple "S" when she wants to Skype the kids at night.

So, I can relate where you are coming from. I don't put kid gloves on because that gives false hope. And false hope leads to more than enough pain. Been there, done that.