I am not familiar with these terms. Must be living under a rock!
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At one point when I was trying to phrase my answer, he snapped, 'Oh just get to the point.'
They don't like it when we don't agree with their demands, do they?
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When I explained what I was hoping for, he got frustrated and said it was untenable because it didn't give him much to live on at the end of the month. I said I felt this was his problem because he made a choice to change his lifestyle, a choice I had no part in but was suffering for, and that I and his son shouldn't have to skimp on stuff because this was a mess of his making, not mine. This is where it all went downhill
I really, really like your answer. Good on ya!
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He said, no, you have a part in this too. I saw red here. I said I would always accept my part in the deterioration of our marriage, but I didn't walk, and I didn't cheat, so the end of the marriage has nothing to do with me that way. He said, "Great, and now you're getting mad with me which is what I didn't want."
Nothing wrong with that. You said things he didn't want to hear. Whats wrong with that? You are doing great!
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I feel awful. I feel I let myself down.
Why? From what you said, you did everything right. They get upset with us when we don't give in to their demands and all. They have this delusion that their choices are perfectly OK and that we should accept them. Heck, some even try to play the guilt card. I think you did wonderful. Your road is becoming shinier and shinier. Own it!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
