Well it went totally pear-shaped. It seems everytime I see WH now it descends into acrimony : (
I got back home after dinner much much later than I intended to - I was having such a good time with my friend I didn't want to look at the clock and when I finally did it was midnight! I had intended to be home around 10. So I legged it back home, and saw that WH had called and messaged to ask me where I was.
WH was not in a good mood when I got in. He asked, very reasonably, that during the week, could I be home before 11pm. I could stay out as late as I liked on a weekend but just not on a week day. I apologised. He then asked to speak to me quickly about the settlement he's proposed. I said I didn't think it was fair. At one point when I was trying to phrase my answer, he snapped, 'Oh just get to the point.' When I explained what I was hoping for, he got frustrated and said it was untenable because it didn't give him much to live on at the end of the month. I said I felt this was his problem because he made a choice to change his lifestyle, a choice I had no part in but was suffering for, and that I and his son shouldn't have to skimp on stuff because this was a mess of his making, not mine. This is where it all went downhill.
He said, no, you have a part in this too. I saw red here. I said I would always accept my part in the deterioration of our marriage, but I didn't walk, and I didn't cheat, so the end of the marriage has nothing to do with me that way. He said, "Great, and now you're getting mad with me which is what I didn't want." He left shortly after.
