Ok ok, one more quick update. I found our copy of "The 5 Love Languages" from a few years ago. My wife wrote notes in the book! Little breadcrumbs for me to find during this time of hell.

Page 16 says "Complete the following: 'There would be fewer divorces if only people______"

and my wife wrote:

"-Communicated better
-Accepted their spouse's personality, looks, needs, and (some) behaviors & didn't try to change them
-Were happy people as being individuals as they are being a couple
-Could learn to give each other space"


Ok....so...time for sleep, but I am excited to think about what she wrote with respect to the questions above I've put out there to Sandi.


M-32 W-32 (both military)
T-8 M-6
PA Oct/Nov 16 (happened twice)
Discovered PA 11/30/16
S 12/1/16
MC 12/1/16 - 1/18/17
BD 1/18/17
A continues? 1/24/17 texts resume with W & OM
W Filed 3/8/17
W Deploys 7/17