Newbie, need help with WAW!

[180Man]

I wish I could edit posts. I read what I wrote just now and felt it needs more clarification. There's two options I've been presented with today and I'm now very confused as to which I should take.

There's Sandi's recommendation of being Strong as she discusses in that thread I linked above.

And then there's DB's recommendation of valdation and empathy.

I feel I really tried the validation and empathy when we were in counseling last month and the month before. Maybe I didn't do it very well? Maybe I would do a better job at it now having not seen her for a month since she asked for a divorce.

I don't know.

But I'm pretty sure I can't try both of these options in one sitting. I'm not sure how that would work.

So...here I sit...confused. Pondering. I will sleep on it and hope maybe Sandi has time to read my story and give her feedback. And of course others as well! I appreciate all the help thus far.