Newbie, need help with WAW!

[180Man]

This morning I read Sandi's Reflections:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2653323#Post2653323

I shared it with two of my close male friends. We were all totally on the same page with Sandi as it feels like my wife fits what Sandi describes there. In my first post here I did not understand there was a different between a WAW and a WW. I get it now.

My two close friends and I talked at length about this today. Even before I found Sandi's Reflections one of my friends was telling me it's time to "stop being a bitch, be the man she fell in love with and wants you to be." A crude way to put it, perhaps, but I get what he's saying. And after reading what Sandi wrote, it reinforced it all that much more.

Then tonight I had a DB session, explained to her that I wanted to take a different approach because I feel I have been very understanding and tried to validate and take ownership in counseling...and it got me here where she's asking for a divorce. So I explained to her that I think I want to take a different approach.

We are supposed to sit down for coffee either next week or the week after and I really need to figure out how I'm going to approach it. Now I'm very confused between the two options of validate vs walking in strong and telling her we have something special that I'm not going to give up without a fight.

Really wish I could talk to Sandi on the phone, haha! No...seriously!

It's possible we may have coffee as early as Monday and I'm really worried I won't choose the correct path.