If I were in your shoes, I would leave him and the conversation right where you left them. Trying to reason w/him isn't going to work because he's not going to listen to what you have to say. Reasoning w/an MLCer is like reasoning w/a stubborn mule.
When you have conversations and written communications w/him, you have to keep them on topic and very simple and to the point. If your communications are lengthy, he's going to shut down and totally not listen to a word you've said and/or typed.
He already knows that you want to make your marriage work. So, just let the pot sit on the stove a while and allow him to think about what transpired last evening. No need to stir it at this time. Just leave him alone and focus on you. Let it go for now!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
