She thinks everything I do has a manipulative motive, anyone dealt with this before?
Describes my WW exactly. Nothing you can say will persuade them otherwise. I suspect it is a lot of projection on their behalf. They are so used to lying and manipulating that they project that onto us.
They just 'know' we are lying, and trying to screw them over. They 'know' this. Their gut tells them this - my WW's words.
On the rare occasion that my W has insinuated that I was not telling the truth, I have looked her straight in the eye and calmly and slowly said, "I have NEVER been untruthful to you." This is the truth and she knows it and then she breaks down in tears.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving