Miky. Frankly I don't know how "wild" her social life is either, but I have to assume the worst.
But my list of affirmations only apply to my current situation, which is that my wife is not making any effort at all to work on the marriage. If she were to ever come to me and discuss the idea of piecing, many things would have to change. Primarily the issue of trust. She will have to start from scratch to restore trust between us.
I understand, and I feel the same way...
I guess what I meant, though, is that taking a softer approach does run the risk of making you appear weak (emphasis on the word appear, because I realize it is anything but) and doesn't leave you with much leverage if she does decide to come back because she knows she has the upper hand.
At least that's my fear...of course, what I hope happens is she wakes up and is herself again, and her remorse/empathy for what she put her family through overrides any of the more selfish tendencies. Probably unrealistic, but a guy can dream.
And, just a small update and maybe some encouragement. Last night, as she was leaving she gave me a hug and told me she loved me. Was the first non-accidental and unprompted I love you in roughly 6 months.
