I had the same urge .... more than once I will admit. Ranged from total exposure, to full out confrontation with OM. Thanks to be .. the fine people here discouraged this as I finally adopted the "Not my circus, Not my monkey" battle cry.
I think its tough the fact the MLCr seems to just relocate the love, feelings, and memories into the OP camp and leave us questioning if what we had was special .. or even real to a point. Then here and there you catch a glimpse of what they might have and you realize its no where close (I lost count how many times OM and MLCr have broken up/got back together) ... typically its two broken people in a broken relationship and you just have to accept its part of the crisis. This does not make it hurt any less but it did give me some comfort.
