I guess the only way from here is up right. I keep reading on working on myself and getting ME right, which i am already doing. Eating healthy, exercise, spiritually, etc... but if I dont talk or see her how will she she that i have become the man she wants to choose? Or is this even the point?
By NOT talking with her, you ARE showing her that you have changed..
Originally Posted By: sellout
I need to work on me, for me, right?
That is typically the plan...
Who will benefit the most from you working on yourself ???
Originally Posted By: sellout
So day 1 i guess on the new me and total 180's. Again, by nature I am impatient but that is something i need to work on.
Dude....right now...
Every time you talk with her, you are providing her with the same vision of you that she is scrambling to get away from...
Every time that you beg, plead, argue with her, all you are doing is validating her reasons for wanting to end this marriage...
Right now, what she feels is what SHE feels, and by arguing with her, begging, pleading...
All that you are doing is telling her that her feelings are wrong...
And when you tell a person that their feelings are wrong, you are trying to "fix" them, like they are broken or something...
And while the things that she may be saying may not be true, they are very true to her....the only person's opinion that matters to her right now...
Originally Posted By: sellout
I think that if i dont see some type of sign or improvement between now and the divorce hearing (3.5 weeks) then I will go through with it.
That certainly is your choice....
However....
sellout New Member
Registered: 02/13/17 Posts: 11
Really ??
You have let her carry this relationship on her back for how many years now ???