This used to be easier - and a lot more fun, cont.

[Georgiabelle]

Oh wow, Don, thanks for the insightful post. I would like to say that I am super chatty today and I have no idea if what I have to say is of any value. I am always fascinated by different personalities here so some of what you said does not match up to the image (darn cyberspace) of what I had of you. My mistake with preconceived notions. When I think "musician" I have a tendency to think a certain personality which just proves that we are all unique.

I understand the wanting to do social things with someone. I am described by people as super outgoing (although I think of myself as just more chatty) and a free spirit. I like lots of people. The idea of them touching me is an entirely different issue and I admit my issue is much deeper than an attraction thing. However, I really am cool with being by myself doing social things. Projects? I would rather do those with someone. I will provide humor, cocktails, and music because I can't imaging anyone wanting me to help with stuff like that.

Anyway, I know some people have said you may come across as "too anxious" which may or may not be true. However, I always find it interesting when the "too anxious" people often are the people who are good with casual. Which is totally cool. Look, I understand why people want to get married again, don't want to marry again, want to date, don't date, etc. Really, it actually all makes sense to me.

I have no clue but maybe that is a piece of it? Some women may think you want x, when in reality you are okay with y. I don't want to speak badly of my gender, but I have noticed that women (or at least the ones I know) are not great at understanding men as a whole. And while most of the men I know say women are confusing, they generally have a good read of them unless they have been in a basement for 17 years with no contact with humans. I'm guessing that more women are open to a LTR whereas some men may want to play the field a bit more or feel they have more options as far as relationship choices. There are people for everyone-regardless of the situation they seek. If you are online dating, then I would definitely say you are open to the type of R you seek. Yes, some women will see casual and think "booty call" although some women are okay with casual. I just think honesty is key. Sorry I can't offer more insight on OLD. I only did it for a few weeks.

You do give great insight on peeps' sitches. You sound like a great, talented guy who has overcome so much. That is a fantastic thing. Honestly, I'm not sure I had a point although I did 20 minutes ago but I forgot