Originally Posted By: sellout
I think you are right. If I had to rate how things are going right now I would give it a zero. I guess the only way from here is up right. I keep reading on working on myself and getting ME right, which i am already doing. Eating healthy, exercise, spiritually, etc... but if I dont talk or see her how will she she that i have become the man she wants to choose? Or is this even the point? I need to work on me, for me, right?

As I said before, you will be forever linked by your child. Not to mention the 16 year relationship you had. I look at it like this. You cant really see grass grow or paint dry in real time. So you cant really 'show' her your changes day by day. But what if you go on vacation for a month - when you get back, what does the grass look like?

Originally Posted By: sellout
The thing she really struggles with is selling the house (its the place where all of our sons friends congregate), a home we have built together. Also she is not ok with us living in 2 separate apartments with our son going back and forth between.

So whats the plan then? I cant imagine you are going to live together after your divorce. And I imagine you arent going to give her 100% custody, right? So, sounds like this is what will happen. I dont see her not liking it as a bad thing.

Originally Posted By: sellout
Also, should I be dating? I have opportunities to do so now. If so, should I tell her or "let her find out"? Does creating jealousy help?

It isnt about the timing of being divorced. Why on earth would you be dating? You just said you LOVE your wife. For me, I didnt start dating until I could look in the mirror and honestly tell myself that my ex would have to get in line behind my new partner (whoever it was going to be) in case a proposal for reconciling was on the table; that I wouldnt sacrifice any new relationship for the old one.