I will come back on later (and not from my phone) and really reflect a bit more.
I want to start off by saying that I have a lot of respect for everyone here that is posting. I understand how badly it is that we all want to save our marriages. We have children that we are doing this for.
But reading these posts left me with a really sick feeling in my heart. Because sx2016 sounds like a great person that deserves a healthy relationship that is not based on infidelity, and gaslighting, and a spouse thatbis clearly provoking fights so that he can justify sleeping around with another woman.
The advise sounds so STEPFORD wivey. "Just be perfect, don't get sick, don't have feelings, and then he will come back and be loyal to you...until next time"
Ito not healthy for our souls to believe that, and I really think that when someone is sleeping around (her ex had multiple affairs) it's a form of abuse. At the very least it is suffocating to the soul.
I don't think it was Michelle weiner Davis intent to encourage staying in abusive marriages.
