KAizen: Thanks and you are right. So, how do I show her that I refuse to compete with him but not give the impression that I am giving up? Seems like a catch 22 right?

Your right, she is NOT going to drop him today, this week or next. Her comment was "she will take this one step and see what happens" by going to the event. However, I was not ok with us going to the event with her still seeing him (which i may now regret). She is having her cake and eating it too by dating him and just in case that doesn't work out she can come back running to me. That's what I have the problem with. With that said, if I cut all ties (give up) then there is ZERO chance it will work. Am I right?


Me: 38
Her: 33
Bomb: 1/6/2017
Separated: 1/10/17
Together: 16 Years
Son 12 Years Old
She and Son still at the house
Divorce Filed/Retracted Multiple Times
Divorce: scheduled to be final 6/20/17